5 Ways Pilates Dramatically Improves Your Sex Life

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Pilates has long been associated with rehabilitation or alignment but there are much more fun reasons to add Pilates to your repertoire. People are discovering that not only does exercise make sex better, but that many of the basic benefits of Pilates have more-than-basic benefits in the bedroom. Pilates is known to tone the pelvic floor, strengthen the abdominals and generally improve the body's performance. What is less known are the specific ways that Pilates can positively impact your most intimate relations. Here are five techniques you can transfer from the mat to the mattress in no time at all.

Use Your Pelvic Floor

It should be fairly obvious that toned pelvic floor muscles are a good thing for sex. Yet most people have no sense of the muscles of their pelvic floor or how to consciously engage them.

In Pilates, we work with the pelvic floor as part of the foundation for the core of the body. Many exercises involve conscious use of the pelvic floor muscles as part of an overall intent to integrate, tone and lift through the midline of the body. We are not talking about overworking the pelvic floor or implying that those muscles should be actively engaged at all times. What we do want is a pelvic floor that can be appropriately responsive to the needs of any activity one is engaged in, whether it be sex or exercise.

What to do? Bring your Kegels to bed. Practice Kegels with your partner as you have sex. Use still or quieter moments to draw your pelvic floor muscles in an up and notice what you both feel.

The Pilates Powerhouse

Want great pelvic action or stronger thrust? Then you are talking about a concert of activity involving your hips, butt muscles, abdominal muscles, back muscles, and more. In short, the Pilates powerhouse which is more than just the core. It's safe to say that each end every Pilates move initiates from this center of the body. What's more, in contrast to many other exercise regimes where you perform moves in high repetition Pilates balances stability moments with mobility moments so you are always increasing strength as well as stretch. This means maximum pelvic power and flexibility with a great payoff between the sheets.

What to do? Work your shoulder bridge on the mat. Curl up and down between each repetition. Then bring that move to the mattress. With consistency, your performance and intensity should help everyone cross the finish line.

Activate Your Pilates Breathing

When you exercise or have great sex, you need all the oxygen-rich blood you can get coursing through your body, refreshing your cells, enhancing your endurance, and waking up all of your senses. Unfortunately, for many people, their version of heavy breathing is shallow panting—not optimal for full-on sex or exercise. In Pilates, we learn to lengthen and pace our breathing timing the exhales with the point of exertion. Translate this into love-making when you're up for something more than a quickie and you and your partner can draw out a sex session that takes up a full afternoon or more.

What to do? Work your Pilates Hundred exercise. Then practice the 5 count inhale and 5 count exhale intermittently during sex. For those who wish to explore the idea of tantric breathing in sex, this is a good first step.

Concentration Is The Pilates Way

One of the sad facts about exercise is that most people try not to be there for it. They work their bodies but send their minds elsewhere. If you rehearse mentally checking out during physical activity, you may well fall into that pattern during sex. Distraction is an enemy to sexual satisfaction so working on your focus is imperative. Joseph Pilates intention was to integrate the body and mind toward an elevation of the spirit and full enjoyment of the pleasures of life.

What to do? Begin at the beginning. Start with the Pilates mat exercises at home. Work on the first five moves with maximum concentration. Do not let your mind wander outside your body. Note your sensations, challenges, and breathing. The next time you're feeling frisky, bring your new found focus with you and stay present. This may be the most challenging for some but has the most impact.

Better Balance Means More Variety

Pilates moves happen on your back, on your stomach, in sitting, kneeling and standing. Many moves challenge your stability and balance. Sex play can be a bit scary for some as we often get into habits routines that involve repeating the same position. As we get older, trying new things is harder mentally and physically. Improving your balance can help inspire everyone to test drive a new method and simultaneously keep us safe.

What to do? Incorporate some standing Pilates moves into your routine. Most can be done anywhere and anytime so you don't need to commit to a workout to improve your balance and coordination.

A Word From Verywell

Pilates is all about balancing your body—a balance of strength, mobility, and even your body chemistry. Overly intense exercise has been seen to reduce sex hormones and drive whereas exercise in moderation can actually boost both. Be aware whatever exercise you choose that adopting a Pilates sensibility to right-size your workout is the very best strategy for a happy healthy body both inside and outside of the bedroom.

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